Are Your Broken Windows Attracting the Wrong Relationships? 🚨
- Stonepoint Community Church
- Feb 22
- 2 min read
Have you ever wondered why certain patterns repeat in your relationships? Why do you keep attracting the same kind of person, facing the same struggles, and ending up in the same cycle of disappointment? The answer might lie in what’s known as the Broken Windows Theory.
This concept, originally used in urban planning, explains that visible neglect attracts more disorder. The same principle applies to relationships—our “broken windows” invite the wrong people into our lives. Let’s explore how this plays out in relationships and what we can do to break the cycle.
What Are Broken Windows in Relationships?
❌ Unhealed past wounds that affect how we choose partners.
❌ Patterns of accepting less than what God has planned for us.
❌ Attracting people who take rather than build.
❌ Choosing based on loneliness rather than suitability.
In the sermon Elephant in the Bedroom – Ellie, An Exposé – Part 1: Broken Windows, we explored how our unresolved issues act like broken windows, signaling to the wrong people that we are vulnerable.
Recognizing the Patterns
Are you incubating chaos in your relationships? Do you feel like you’re constantly fixing or rescuing others? God designed relationships for partnership, not projects.
If you find yourself constantly:
✅ Making excuses for someone’s behavior.
✅ Carrying the full emotional weight of the relationship.
✅ Feeling drained rather than filled.
It’s time to ask: What are you incubating?
Fixing the Broken Windows
1️⃣ Seek Healing in God Before Seeking a Partner
Instead of searching for someone to fill a void, let God restore what was broken. Your heart should be hidden in Him so that anyone who finds you must seek Him first.
2️⃣ Be Intentional About Who You Attract
If you keep attracting chaos, it’s time to assess your own brokenness. Are you drawn to familiar dysfunction? What areas of your life need healing?
3️⃣ Stop Taking on Projects
Women, you are not called to fix a man. Men, you are not called to build a woman into someone she was never meant to be. Relationships should complement, not consume.
4️⃣ Trust in God’s Timing
Rushing into relationships out of loneliness can lead to more pain. Instead, trust that God is preparing the right person for you—someone who matches your future, not your past.
Join Us for the Full Series!
If you’re ready to transform your relationships and deepen your understanding of God’s plan, stay tuned for the next few weeks, continuing Feb. 23rd at 11:15am, of The Elephant in the Bedroom: ELLIE – An Expose. You’ll gain practical wisdom, biblical truths, and new perspectives on everything from overcoming trauma to building strong, God-centered relationships.
Final Thoughts
Your relationships are a reflection of your expectations and self-worth. When you heal your broken windows, you invite God’s best into your life.
🛑 Are you attracting the right kind of relationships? Comment below and let’s start the conversation.